You will have an impact on people whether you choose to or not. You only get a choice as to whether that impact is positive or negative.
The yelling, fist-thumping coach thinks nothing of intimidating or humiliating. It goes with the turf.
This coach reckons it gets results. It doesn’t.
Importantly, this coach is messaging to others that there is nothing wrong with screaming abuse at the opposition, at referees and at their own players, both young and old.
Coaches committed to building a culture of respect do things differently – and they achieve greater success.
They set a completely different tone through composure and consideration.
They communicate sincerely and constructively with everyone in and around the club.
They treat everyone fairly, welcoming of all comers.
They’re powerful role models, inspiring others to follow their lead.
People remember these coaches. Their impact is positive, and life-long.
You’re a key influencer in the development of a club culture of respect, safety, fun and success.
As such, you seriously commit to your club values – no half measures, no tokenism.
Successful coaches know how to bring out the best in people.
They understand that you get more from people through positive relationships than you do through yelling and abuse.
Respectful and clear communication is key to your success.
You may have a great knowledge of the game, but if you’re not communicating effectively and respectfully, your success is limited.
Great coaches are judged by many success measures. Winning is only one of them and by no means the grandest.
Take responsibility for your contribution to the team and club culture.
Enjoy the rewards of success and accept the consequences when things go wrong.
Whether you like it or not, people notice how you perform your role and both younger and older folks are taking cues from you as to what’s appropriate.
So, you need to be placing as much importance on your language, attitudes and actions as your game day tactics.
Bring out the best in all of your players regardless of their gender, different cultural backgrounds, family circumstances and temperaments.