Club Respect tips for the Parent

  • A. Alignment of values

    You need to be confident that your child is in the right place.

    • Check out the club values before you commit to a club.
    • If you have doubt, don’t hesitate to seek out a club that looks to have its act together more than this one.
    • Ask yourself whether this club feels like a place of fun, enjoyment, exercise, personal development and growth, team work and respectful behaviour.
    • Once you’ve found the right club for your child(ren), speak up if you feel that more work can be done on the club’s values. They’re crucial to a positively transformational experience for so many children and young adults.
  • W. Working well with others

    Respect what the coach, or other club personnel, are trying to achieve and constructively support them in their endeavours.

    • Be genuinely welcoming and inclusive in your attitude to those around you. Talk with people, listen closely to what they have to say, show you care, and pay them respect.
    • Understand that club personnel have methods for working with the children and for ensuring that they get the most out of their time at the club. It can be confusing for children if their parents contradict or undermine their coach’s instruction. If you do want to raise something with your child’s coach or team manager, make an appointment with them at an appropriate time.
    • If you have ideas or would like to contribute, find out how you can volunteer.
  • E. Effective communication

    As a parent, you will be mixing with others. While it can be trying sometimes, you’ll always get the best results if you’re open, civil and polite.

    • Loose talk, gossip and white-anting have no place in a club seeking to be a place of respect and regard.
    • If you have any issues or concerns, communicate them with the relevant people at the appropriate time – always in a spirit of co-operation and with a desire to find solutions.
  • S. Success judged (the right way!)

    As a parent, you’re a key driver in creating a community that looks after its people.

    • Be an advocate for the club’s measures of success over winning at all costs. 
    • Nothing much is gained when parents simply drop their kids off at the club. Make an effort to go to club events when you can, to acknowledge and celebrate the efforts around the club in achieving these measures of success.
  • O. Ownership

    You make or break your child’s, and other children’s, sports experience.

    Like it or not, they’re all observing you and soaking up the parents; the good, the bad and the ugly. So, seize your responsibility and opportunity to promote the positive at all times and in all situations.

  • M. Modelling respectful behaviour

    Parents are the adults here. Set the standard. 

    • Sign the Club Respect Pledge
    • Make civility, grace and good humour your hallmarks.
    • Be prepared to commend good play on both sides and, importantly, accept the referee’s judgement whether you agree or not.
    • If you see bullying, name calling, or angry outbursts by others, call it out. Either, by yourself in a calm, safe and respectful way or by reporting the behaviour to a club official. If your club has a Member Protection Information Officer (MPIO), they’re the one to go to. 
  • E. Equality and fairness

    Support every child’s right to have fun and participate – not just your own.

    • Keep an eye out for instances of injustice – small and large.
    • Be willing to work alongside others in any role around the club, challenging any stereotypes that might still linger in your club.
    • Go out of your way to embrace and welcome people from diverse backgrounds and cultures.
    • Make sure that the clubs assets and resources are shared equally.
    • Accept the decision of the coach not to select your child on every occasion.